Don't Dye Their String

First off, I'd like to apologize for not blogging yesterday. I was buried under a bunch of work and I'm just now getting around to it. So my deep apologies my friends. Now, for the latest blog.
Think About This....


Okay so the other day I was debating on which spin to put on my "Whose the Handicapped?" post, and after reading Kansas' comment on it, I realized that he's right. That and more. Here's the part of Kansas' comment that really got me. He says:

"What you say matters just as much as what you do, many people only hear what you say, and that will be their first, and maybe only impression of you. What a shame it would be if the only thing someone heard you say was f****** R*tard, or something along those lines...Think about what you say, words have more power than they are ascribed."

I love his last line, and I think much wisdom is carried in that line. Words do have more power than they are given credit to, yeah, it may sound a bit cliche, and yeah i might be a bit "third-grade guidance counselor" but its absolutely a hundred percent true. Words can tear and cut into people like you wouldn't imagine. You can damage someone so badly with just mere words that they become so....distraught that they can't do anything to fix it.

Remember before about how I made the little worlds comment? ((You can find it here)) This sort of applies, and as well goes along with another comment Kansas had left that I find is...remarkable.

"....There is a web of people, actions, every time threads cross they change, in some small way, or in some big way....."

I think this comment applies very greatly in todays post. I want to kind of further his analogy. Imagine that everyone has white strings, all looped together through the connestions they have with each other. Now, imagine if we introduced a string that has been dyed lets say, red. The red string represents one person who trash talks and makes fun of people just for the sheer reason of doing it. And the red dye is their words. Each time they make fun of someone, or say something negatively about another, they are intertwined with that string, that person, and the dye rubs off onto that string, dying it, changing it forever.

It's like a dreamcatcher. The strings are woven together in these intricate patterns and all are pure, that is, until that one red string, that one negative person comes in with their red words and ruins everything. The entire dreamcatcher is changed forever, and you can't change it back. You may introduce bleach to the strings, hidding and covering up the red dye but you can't change it back and make that string pure again.

Words can damage people. Change them forever.

I want to tell you a story, share with you an experience. I wish to share no names, however, so no names will be mentioned.

There was this girl, who believed that she had many genuine friends. That she was accepted and liked very muchly in this group of friends. Until one day, she heard some of these friends talking about her. She was hurt by this but buried it. Bleached it back white and pretended she was never red. She never wanted them to know that she had been dyed.

She kept overhearing them as it got worse and worse, the dye getting more and more potent no matter how much she bleached it. It was too obvious she was hurting.

It changed her forever, she grew quieter, more timid, never talking to anyone. These "friends" kept picking on her, and she could never do anything to stop them. There was nothing to do. It was out of her control.

So one night, after enduring a long hard day of hearing them talk, hearing their hurtful words, and after trying so hard to bury it, she broke.

She tried to take her own life.

Words hurt, people, and I can't imagine why someone would try to do that. The girl from the story is okay now, she learned how to deal with things the healthy way. The point in me telling you that story, though, is to tell you words can seriously damage people and stab at people, and forever changing them. The girl from the story isn't the same as she was before, she never will be. Because of the words from her so-called "friends."

Next time you try talking bad about someone, I don't care what they might have done to you, be the bigger person and not talk about them. At the moment you may want them to feel the pain they make you feel but you have to turn the other cheek. And I hope people today are mature enough to know not to talk negatively about other people, but alas, it's not a perfect world. People talk, and people hurt. It's just a part of life.

Next time you say something hurtful, or think of saying something hurtful, I want you to stop and think of how your words might impact that person, how it might damage them, how it could damage their string.

Don't be the dye that changes them forever.

xo

Kayy