Parallel: Love

okay, so me and my friend Kansas are starting this new thing, called parallel blogging. So, basically Kansas writes a blog and then I write a response to it, or vice versa. So this time he started it. I think it's really an eyeopening post too, and makes you think. And, because I can't simply quote his entire blog, you need to read it, found here . So...on to today's subject.....

Love:
Kansas pointed out that love is a very misused and much abused word. I like his example saying people today can "love" a rock like they "love" a person. I think first we have to find the definition of love. According to dictionary.refrence.com, the defintion of love is as follows, and this is just a few of the definitions:

LOVE
a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
(used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
a love affair; an intensely amorous incident; amour.
affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books.
the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.
to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for (another person).
to have a strong liking for; take great pleasure in: to love music.
to need or require; benefit greatly from: Plants love sunlight.
in love, infused with or feeling deep affection or passion: a youth always in love.
in love with, feeling deep affection or passion for (a person, idea, occupation, etc.); enamored of: in love with the girl next door; in love with one's work.


There were twenty-eight diffrent definitions. Twenty-eight. But they all basically say the same thing, can all be condensed into one saying. Love is when you can't be away from a person, can't bear to see them hurt, and you would do anything for them. Love isn't a feeling. Feelings can change. Love is unconditional, unchanging. When you love someone you will do anything for them. You'll do anything to see them happy and likewise do anything to keep them from being hurt. Love should be a sacred word, something you say only when you fully understand it, and fully accept just how much power that one little word holds.
And now, I know you might be like, power? what power can a word hold? It's a tiny four letter word.
The reason you don't see the power in the little word, the great emotion and thought it's supposed to represent and mean is because that little word is so overused today in our society. I mean think about it, truely sit there and think about it. List the four things you say you "love."
At school yesterday, you know what I heard? I heard things like "I love these shoes," "I love his writing," "I love this food" "I love that outfit on you," "I love my computer/cell phone/etc." And such examples, I think you get the picture. Now let me ask you something, you may "love" that outfit, or that material item, or food, or even literature, but would you die for it?
Sacrifice. If you truely love something, someone, you would do anything for them. That means everything from something little, such as maybe giving up going to see a movie with friends to hang out with them, to something big, like risking your life for them. Now, before I get any "whipped" comments or something let me explain something. Yes you shouldn't alienate your friends completely but if you truely loved someone you would want to spend every second with them, never want to leave them; it'd physically pain you to be away. You need them. Not only do you want them but you need them too. I'm not saying be a clingy boyfriend/girlfriend and like hang all over them. Just that let's say you were given a choice. Hang out with your friends and go see a movie like you do every saturday or go to hang out with the person you "love."If you did love that person, truely love them, you would instantly choose to be with them. Whenever you could. And the bigger thing, if you love someone you should be willing to see them happy at any cost, it shouldn't matter what harm may come to you. You should be willing to have harm brought to you, put yourself in danger, as long as they're okay, they live, they're fine and unharmed and safe. It goes back to doing anything to see them happy. If you love someone, you would sacrifice it all for them. Doesn't matter if it's a "special/significant other" or if it's family. You would be willing to give everything up for them if you truely madly deeply loved them.
Something that plays directly into sacrifice is trust. You certainly wouldn't say you loved someone if you didn't trust them, now would you? You have to be able to trust them with everything. Certainly if you are willing to say you "love" them that means you trust them to some degree. Hopefully you trust them with all you have, and I think if you really love someone then you would trust them with everything. I think part of falling in love with someone and really truely loving them is learning to trust them and trusting them with all you have. And I think that since you say you love them, that's like saying you trust them. Now, I'm not saying you love everyone you trust, maybe you do, but remember, part of love is sacrifce. And you may trust someone but you may not be willing to give up your life for them.
The last "element of love" Kansas pointed out was that love is a choice. I think that this is true to a certain degree. I mean yes, you choose who you trust and you might even choose who you'd sacrifice yourself for. Sacrifice and Trust are just a part of love. I think it's bigger than that. True, pure love is bigger than just trusting them and sacrificing it all for them. I believe that love cant be fully explained in words, you can explain some things but not it all. I think theres something supernatural involved with love. Like, when you get into an arguement with that person you "love" you can't help but forgive them a few minutes later and work things out. I think it all plays in together and that if you love them and want them to be happy and completely trust them and everything else that has been mentioned, then you can't be mad at them. You see no reason for you to be. You can see they're views and see things from their perspective. And when you really love someone you can't stay mad at them long because you know that makes them unhappy and you can't stand that. I believe when two people truely love each other than you're never truely mad or upset with the other. Other things maybe, but not the other person. You can't help it. You dont't stay mad or upset because you physically can't. You can't really control it, no matter how much you try, you can't do it.
It all just plays together.
And the last thing I will say about love, is that when you love someone, you NEVER give up. You never stop fighting for them. You always fight for them, stand up for them, do what you can. But you never call it quits. Ever. You never bail out on them, you never leave them. You give anything and everything but you don't ever give up.

xo
Kayy